being frightened of what the bullies might do
	being unsure or frightened of parental reaction
	being ignored or told to sort it out themselves
	believing that the adults will act in a clumsy way and make the situation worse
	a teenager's typical dread of a fuss
	This will be difficult for you if your child seems set against you contacting the school.

	- physical safety
	- emotional state
	- age
	- relationship with you in the family
	and the seriousness of the bullying.

If you decide that the situation is sufficiently serious that you are going to contact the school:

	always try to work through the school
	take time to talk over the situation
	take time to persuade your child why this must happen
	try and get some agreement, even if only a little, that something has
	to be done
	listen carefully so it is clear you are not ignoring your child's views